Avoidant Attachment 101

• * You are accustomed to partners demanding too much of you, so you are sensitive to even benign requests.
• * Historically, generosity has been a form of manipulation, obligating you reciprocate more than you are comfortable giving.
• * You anticipate being blamed for when things go wrong in a relationship, and may head it off by avoiding too much responsibility or commitment.
• * You might be described as having a fear of commitment, but often that is only because you take commitment quite seriously, when and if you finally decide to commit to something.
• * You might be considered aloof or emotionally distant, but when you do feel things, you feel them very intensely (so much, it might scare you).
• *You may struggle with perfectionism and fears of failure, but act just the opposite so as to avoid appearing too weak or vulnerable.
• * Deep down, you believe you have to earn love and approval, and so, you are drawn to partners that are “challenging” or “edgy,” that make you work for it.
• * On the other hand, if a partner gives you love and affection too freely, you find them “boring,” or “too nice” and question your ability to make them happy.
• * You tend to fall into relationships quickly, but around 3-6 months, its like a light switch flips, and all you can focus on are the flaws in the relationship, and the missed opportunities still out there.
• * If your partner flirts with someone else or expresses a need for space, you may feel a sense of relief, at first, followed by a need to test them.
• * You may also struggle with other forms of addiction, such as drug abuse, alcohol abuse, food addictions, shopping addictions, hoarding, gaming addictions, and so on.
• * But the hardest thing for the Rolling Stone, is that they usually attract other partners with insecure attachment styles, and so they fall into what’s called the anxious-avoidant trap; a circumstance where you typically find yourself in partnership with someone that is emotionally dependent on you, thus “proving” your pessimistic perspective on love: that it comes at the cost of freedom.

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